"I dont say that what happened was the best option. Nobody calculatedly falls in love. It just happens! Whenever I thought of my life partner, I always imagined
someone like him - handsome, strong, with a peaceful face, but never him.It was however, destined that it had to be him," she has said in 'Hema Malini', her authorized biography by film critic Bhawana Somayya.
On her marriage with Dharmendra Hema says when she and ‘Dharamji’ agreed to come together, marriage was the only solution. "We shared a few good years together and the result is our two beautiful daughters. I console myself that had I been into a regular marriage with the regular responsibilities of other wives, would I have been able to evolve and grow the way I did?" Dharamji trusted me and encouraged my pursuits.
Always concerned and demonstrative in our private space, his reassurance has instilled confidence in me," Hema says.
On BJP:
"When I joined the BJP a few years ago, it seemed like a party on the upswing. A few months down the line, the party had lost elections", Hema says, agreeing "on a reflective note, that politics is a jungle where destinies change every evening", the book quotes the actress as saying.
She is, however, happy that Dharmendra has found an outlet in politics.
"That she should be attracted towards him and none of her other heroes was providential. That she was willing to risk societal pressures and moral accusations were the will of God," Hema says.
Her advice to heroines keen on settling down- they must do so before they turn thirty. Later, it becomes difficult to start a family. At the end of the day, you need someone beside you to share your life and thoughts, Hema asserts. Hema admits, trifle hesitantly, that she was denied many such moments. "The best of partners drift away with time because of lack of passion, and in my case he was already committed when we came together. There are special moments in your children's life, and again, he has prior commitments. There are milestones in your career and his, and one is not together because making an appearance together becomes a statement. It makes other loved ones uneasy, so you have to withdraw, understand, let go and swallow your hurt and you do just that", she says.
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